Welcome again to my blog! In my previous blog article I wrote about my loss and grief experience through bullying. The positive feedback I got from y’all was amazing. Thank you!
Reading all your individual stories, I realized how much of a problem bullying is. I felt, for a long time, I was the only one having experienced bullying. An aspect of bullying I didn’t consider back then was how many other kids might also be targets.
Bullying is no laughing matter. I hope you realize it does affect your life, it can be so intense that it leaves emotional scars and open wounds. If you had been bullied yourself and this still affects your daily life, please seek professional help. I came across a helpful article, Knowing When to Seek Professional Help, which charaterizes typical distress and distress that requires professional attention. If you are affected, maybe these charatericstics help you to figure out if you should seek professional help.
As I was bullied at school, my parents and me decided I should move school to escape the bullying. When I went to a different High School away from my bullies, after some time, the bullying started all over again. Maybe I tried too hard to fit in…. I think people who bully are looking for your weakness and pick on that with hurtful words or actions.
Ever since I was 11, my passion for music constantly increased – above all my passion for 3T music of course ;-). I loved music lessons at school, and kept on playing the flute. At age 16 I started taking street dance / hip-hop lessons. And I began building self confidence and friendships. That really changed my life, I finally started to re-build what I had lost during 10 years of bullying.
I tried very hard to leave my past of having been bullied behind me. But at the age of 27, I got caught up by my past – I started to suffer from depression. That was the first time in my life I got professional help. The process I went through can be summed up by this quote:
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health; food, people, things, situations and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called it a healthy egoism. Today I know it is LOVE OF ONESELF.
I believe, it’s crucial to recover from loss and grief as soon as possible, even more if children are affected. Children grief differently than adults – one minute they seem to be absolutely fine, the next moment they are having a fit. Children don’t talk easily about their emotions as they haven’t developed that skill yet.
A great way to help children who suffer from loss and grief is music therapy. That’s exactly how Dee Dee Jackson Foundation is helping children in need. Music therapy by DDJF is provided under the slogan “Music Heals”. They offer different therapy programmes depending on the age of the children: “Rhythm of Hope” is a therapy programme tailored for children aged from 7 to 12 while “My story, our Song” is the therapy programme for teenagers, aged from 13 to 18. Each music therapy programme is attended by a certified musical therapist and dedicated volunteers. Within six to eight weeks the children will compose and record an original song and learn how to cope with loss and grief.
Being creative allows children to experience a safe place where they can tell their story of loss and grief. By attending music therapy lessons, children in need will find hope and find out that they are not alone. Watch this clip to get a glimpse of how music therapy works:
I hope this inspires you to donate! Find out how via the link below.
Until next time!